No one knows for certain why any individual is gay, but the current thought is that being gay is not a choice. In other words, 5-10% of people experience same-sex sexual attraction or behavior of course, this doesn't speak to what makes people gay. "Of, pertaining to, or exhibiting sexual desire or behavior directed toward a person or persons of one's own sex." The simplest answer is to look at the definition of the word "gay." The term gay is a synonym for homosexual, which is defined as, 1,2 But it's a stretch to say they're all truthing.Estimates as to the number of gay people in the population range from 1-in-20 to 1-in-10, so why are some people gay? Are they gay by choice or is being gay genetic? Which is not to say that all straight-identified guys who sleep with or have slept with other men are lying.
It was nice that our parents, fans, congregants, and constituents played along. I mean, Liberace, Ted Haggard, Elton John, Larry Craig, George Michael, and I all identified as straight once.
In conclusion, DICKS, I'm with you: people can identify however they like-and we should respect people's identities and not be assholes to each other and blah blah blah-but we're not obligated to believe everything a person says. But it's how we passed the time before Twitter and Fidget Spinners came along. (See: " Why Do All These Homosexuals Keep Sucking My Cock?," The Onion, October 28, 1998.) It's not always possible to determine who's identifying as straight under duress and who's identifying as straight due to internalized homophobia. Some men who sleep with other men claim to be 100% straight because they have no choice-it's not possible to be openly gay everywhere ( Chechnya, Jamaica, Vatican City)-but others claim to be straight because they think there's something wrong with being gay and they hate themselves and other gay men, including (especially) the gay men they fuck. Now we all want to live in a world where straight-identified guys can mess around with another guy once or twice without being told they're gay, but we can't be naive and/or credulous: we currently live in a world where homophobia runs rampant. (Bi erasure is a game anyone can play.)Īll that said, there are guys out there who claim to be 100% straight while bouncing from cock to cock to cock-guys who, again, aren't in prison or on pirate ships. I think those guys are bi and most of those guys identify as bi. There are guys out there who like to fuck guys and girls but only fall in love with girls. There's also the difference between being homoamorous and homosexual, heteroamorous and heterosexual, biamorous and bisexual, and various combos of all of the above. Straight-identified women are allowed to be sexual with other women and still identify as straight (%100 even), while men who have sex with other men-even once-spend the rest of their lives being told they're really bisexual or gay because there's no way they could've done that otherwise. Voila: a 100 percent straight guy is having sex on the regular with another dude.) There's also something of a a huge fucking double standard when it comes to straight guys and sexual exploration. (Guy with dick marries woman with vagina, woman transitions to male, couple remains married. A straight guy with a dick could find himself in a relationship with a guy with a vagina.
Bless their hearts.)Ī few more wrenches to throw in the werks: There are straight guys who don't have dicks, DICKS. (Straight girls who lecture gay men and 2S guys about how homosexuality works.
But while it may be "their truth," per your annoyingly high-minded straight friend, it's not the truth, per you and me, all sensible people everywhere, facts at hand, objective reality, etc. But can those guys still identify as straight? Sure, if that's how they feelz. So I happen to agree with you, DICKS, that a dude who fucks dudes isn't 100% straight. Now most straight-identified dudes who fuck other men aren't in prison, on pirate ships, or at all-boys boarding schools.